Success Arriving On the Back of a Horse

Saigon Diary: Jan 13th, 2026.

We’ve been back in Saigon for exactly a week now, in the space of which we’ve experienced pelting rain, pollution-clogged air, baking afternoon sun, and the coldest temperatures in ten years (17 degrees).

Over in Australia, where we spent Christmas, the country has seen some of the most prolific and deadly bushfires in recent memory.

In the UK, there was a cold snap this month, momentarily freezing not just people’s water pipes but their ability to go about their day-to-day business, hounded as they were by news outlets preaching Armageddon warnings about sealing windows and purchasing extra toilet paper.

The topic of the ‘the weather’ is a universal ice-breaker (pardon the double meaning) casually interrogated daily by everyone. And yet the signs couldn’t be clearer: we’re teetering on the edge of permanent humanitarian fragility.

These ever-mutating climate threats should be enough to alert us to the impending quagmire of turmoil that awaits us round the corner – country to country, there will be no exceptions – and we should be braced for more, not less, disruption. But we often pretend to ignore the symptoms (I’m guilty of doing that constantly).

Obviously the ability to survive in the future will largely tilt in favour of those with money.

If you’re reading this, then you’re already in the top echelons of society when it comes to being “comfortable”. Like me, you perhaps might “care” about climate change, but that isn’t going to stop you booking flights back to see your family in the holidays.

The current impacts of our warming planet are stark, and the issues chase at our heels like a snappy terrier.

The truth, of course, is that this pesky dog is easy enough to muzzle if you can afford it.

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Meanwhile, Chinese New Year is approaching over in this part of the world, and the Vietnamese are in countdown already.

Office outputs across Saigon are running on the faintest wisps of enthusiasm, as locals traditionally use the western festive season as the starting pistol to their own run up to what they call ‘Tet’.

New Year’s Day this year is late – Feb 17th – and it’s also a fairly prestigious one (the Year of the Horse) which means the excitement and build-up to the event itself is extra punchy.

For the Chinese, the Horse symbolises strength and vitality – the saying goes that “success arrives on horseback”. That’s enough, by all accounts, to merit this particular year one of the more popular for having children. Hospitals and schools routinely re-organise their resources to accommodate this reality: more babies are born in an auspicious year, meaning more children going to school further down the line.

Much like how we traditionally herald in the birthday of Christ, Tet customs are anchored in family and in catering.

Where some of us celebrate annual turkey culling in time for December 25th (complete with other foods and drinks we simply don’t touch again for the following 364 days – Brussel sprouts, bread sauce, mince pies, Eggnog etc) over here during Tet there will be millions of sticky rice cakes, pickled vegetables and braised pork and eggs curated and consumed.

The locals will meticulously tidy their houses prior to New Year’s Eve, hand out “lucky money” to children, and spend time worshipping their ancestors.

In contrast, for most Brits anyway, attention to the tidiness of one’s house often slips for a week or so during Christmas. Instead, decorations clutter the walls, living rooms are carpeted in discarded wrapping paper, and emergency chairs, you didn’t even know your parents owned, are deployed to seat guests and “blow-in’s” who might materialise at the mere prospect of being offered mulled wine and a honey mustard chipolata on a cocktail stick.

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I’m fast approaching my fifteenth anniversary of living in Saigon, and in spite of a longing to be rugged up outside in the English cold, clutching my fingers round a hot drink while listening to carols and losing the feeling in my toes, the charm of Vietnam at this time of year oozes out of everyone you meet.

From shopkeeper to security guard, folks are mildly giddy at the prospect of Tet as it means they’ll also receive their “thirteenth month” bonus, will soon be spending time with their loved ones, and generally getting caught up in all the festivities.

As I think back to the mercurial weather we’ve had this last week, and look at the topologies of this country – the rising sea levels, the low-lying villages in the Mekong, the seasonal flooding up in the centre of Vietnam, and so on – it seems inevitable that any future solutions to safeguard communities to climate shocks are up against all odds.

There are simply too many vulnerable people in the country. There isn’t the infrastructure – yet – in place, nor the funds to fast-track technological solutions.

Which makes the act of celebration, on the national scale that Tet demands, all the more poignant.

This year, by hook or by crook (and while I can’t stop riding my spluttering motor-bike around town, and will inevitably end up flying here or there) I will endeavour to be more committed to supporting local organisations and efforts to turn learning into practice, when it comes to the environment.

Even if that, for today, is just to be writing about it and sharing my thoughts into the ether.

The organisations that are working on climate issues here are still nascent. But there are a growing number (I wrote about some of them in December who I met up north). They need more recognition and more funding. They need to collaborate wider.

If you would like to recommend any to me, or would be interested in learning more about those currently in operation, then drop me a line and I’d be happy to connect.

Until next time!

Last Day

With the lunar new year just two weeks away, fireworks and festivities are being procured and arranged over here in Saigon, and the streets certainly feel livelier than normal.

This morning’s cool air is as fresh as we ever get to experience down in the south. Not the minus temperatures felt in other parts of the world, but a brief ‘Goldilocks’ period where the sun still shines, the breeze is almost cold, and the humidity abates. Not for long, mind you. But, it’s a welcome reprieve from the typically muggy, sweaty days spent avoiding the thick heat.

January is a reflection month for many, whether it arrives on the coattails of Christmas or, if you are Vietnamese, if it happens to be the month that hosts ‘Tet’ (Lunar New Year) celebrations.

Just as our cooler weather here momentarily provides a break from the norm, the ritual of Tet and the start of a new year mirror an instinct shared across cultures to begin afresh. It is a Tet tradition, for example, to spring clean your house and to pay off your debts, whilst containing your excitement at the prospect of receiving your year end bonus (an extra month’s salary.)

For those already a fortnight into 2025, ‘reflections’ on life are running amok over the internet. I read this morning, for instance, about the benefits of “mimicking hibernating” during the winter. We should slow things down, the article advises, and reboot.

If anything, for lots of people in “the west”, the hectic pace of life during December can be so relentless that, come Christmas, slowing down takes on a new dimension, as hoards of festive home comers almost immediately fall prey to fatigue, flu or the merry breakdown of over-used and depleted internal organs, the minute they slump in an armchair clutching a mince pie.

In the whirlwind of any major holiday, it is normal to feel that mix of exhaustion and exhilaration. It’s a universal rhythm, a reminder of both the joy and the effort it takes to celebrate life.

These rituals seem linked to our collective urge to reset and to reflect. Whether through meditation, or simply savoring small moments, we often seek out ways to reconnect with ourselves in the melee of everyday life.

Reflection itself is a valuable commodity, whether you are doubling down on it in January, or at other times of the year. It’s how we process the past and prepare for the future, and I suspect the practise of meditation itself becomes more popular the older one gets, for this very reason.

Once you have learnt how to meditate, I’ve heard it can be applied to other activities – washing the dishes, for example.

I’m currently trying to convince my daughters of this, in an attempt to make my invitations to them to take on a household chore be met with less eye-rolling, and to be treated more as a “short mental holiday” – a phrase I heard someone use.

On the occasions where such wisdom is not absorbed by my teenagers, I resort to threatening to dock their pocket money.

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As my kids have had weekly ‘mindfulness’ classes at school now for several years, I’ve half expected them to be advising me on the art of taking a short mental holiday.

When I was their age, mindfulness wasn’t taught in schools, because you magically created it for yourself. Aside from being sprawled on the carpet in front of the TV for hours on end, the rest of my childhood was probably about 90% “mindful”. We had a lot of time to kill just staring at things. Into the sky, out of car windows.

If we went on long car journeys, I recall, my brother and I would watch the rain droplets race each other across the car windows, as Dad sped up down the motorway.

And, if we’re playing that game, then when Britain’s first motorway – the M1 – was actually constructed, my father fondly remembers spending the day out with his parents, driving up and down it for the first time. Just for the experience.

Imagine choosing to drive up the M1 and back, just for the experience.

In many ways, it’s a reminder that, as children, we instinctively found wonder in the world around us. I think this can get eclipsed as a core skill, as we get older and inevitably become distracted with other things.

Valuing what we’re doing, as we do it, can therefore be surprisingly rewarding.

To listen, to breathe, to feel – these are all credible and affordable past-times, requiring no digital platforms, and no hash-tags. They’re small acts, but they create space for us to notice life as it unfolds, and also to pick up on the daily changes we experience, manifesting ever so slightly as they often do.

If January is a good time for a reset and to reflect, I’ve concluded that it helps to remember, too, that each day is unique. Today is the last day you’ll ever experience life exactly as you are now – your thoughts, feelings, and perspective will evolve tomorrow, even if only slightly.

We barely notice these changes from one breakfast sitting to the next, but change is happening – physiologically, mentally, spiritually. We might not realise it as a constant, but we’ve all had those moments – a photo, a memory, or a milestone – that remind us how far we’ve come.

In this way, I’m quite taken by the idea that we’re all works in progress, one day at a time.

To me, it doesn’t matter if you’re “better” tomorrow than you were yesterday, or not.

Being ‘better’ in different aspects of life is drummed into us (I suppose the opposite mantra doesn’t have quite the same appeal.) Rather than simply ‘better’ I think it helps to acknowledge being different today to how we were the day before. Even if you think that waking up and reaching for your phone felt pretty much the same this morning as it did yesterday, it isn’t.

Today will be the last day you show up, and the last day you feel, listen and breathe as exactly who you are today. Tomorrow is a different you. Your routine might remain the same, you might think you feel the same thoughts, and hold the same views, but you won’t.

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We’re all guilty of experiencing ‘FOMO’ – a fear of missing out – and I enjoyed reading a twist on this recently called ‘JOMO’ – the JOY of missing out.

That rush of relief at finding time being given back to you. Or, better still, proactively ensuring time for yourself is marked out. Saying “no” to things.

January, it could be argued, is peak JOMO territory for many people, given the lack of money and energy to actually go out and socialise in the first place.

FOMO in January? Of what?

I don’t think my FOMO will altogether disappear, now that I’ve discovered JOMO can be a worthy antidote to the constant pressures to do, to achieve, and to be everywhere at once.

JOMO, however, reminds us of the joy in stepping back, in letting go, and in savoring today. Because this day – this unique combination of who we are, what we feel, and how we see the world – will never come again.

And that is worth celebrating.

My brief English Odyssey

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A glorious London skyline from the CARE office in Vauxhall

I am back in Saigon, having missed most of the Tet celebrations this month. Instead, London was calling, and I returned there for two weeks…

Tet, by all accounts, went off smoothly without me.

The weather was perfect and, in Daddy’s absence, Florence and Martha at least dressed up ‘proper’ for the occasion…

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Florence and Martha, ready for Tet!

I still can’t quite believe that, this time last week, I was sharing a pint in a Nunhead beer shop with a certain Mr Barmby – kept warm later that evening from the (frankly) glacial temperatures, thanks to our wise move to follow up the pie and gravy supper with a boat load of apple crumble and custard.

In the UK, we may entertain far too many grey and cold days each year than is good for anyone, however, we are also world class experts in tactics to at least keep the soul and the belly in fine fettle, whatever the conditions.

In every house at which I stayed throughout this last trip, without exception, the living room fires were roaring, and the alcohol and indulgent food made for a daily, and delicious, concoction.

Fish and chips, curry, roast beef, lasagne, bangers and mash. I could go on.

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Late night whiskey sampling at The Wickhams

It tends to be unsatisfactory, trying to make sense of flying halfway round the world, immersing yourself in surroundings so familiar you feel an integral part of what is going on, only to then jettison back into surroundings utterly removed from where you have been, yet at the same time also totally familiar.

On this trip, whether I was with family, with friends, on the London Underground, or pounding pavements that I used to run down to catch my evening bus home, I could very easily have forgotten all about Vietnam in an instant.

London, in particular for me after 14 years living there, will always hold a special place in my heart. I know it intricately, yet it is also not quite how I left it, and I saw myself bounding about last week as if observing a former me from the past. Steering a pushchair through a park, tapping out a text message as I headed out of the office, leafing through a Metro newspaper, waiting for something to jump off the pages at me.

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London hustle

On the one hand, my visit was intense on the work front (although hugely rewarding) but then surprisingly calming on the social front. Non-stop “catching up” with various folks, everyday, was, for a change, a much more languid and reflective and nourishing affair.

And I thank each and every one responsible for that – it was needed!

There were family trips to watch England vs Italy at Twickenham, visits to new babies, meeting new partners, rubbing shoulders with new and old work colleagues. There was nostalgia, contemplation, and a barrel of laughs (more pics below for posterity).

Meantime, over in Laos, heady with exploits of coming face-to-face with abandoned wild bears, and riding on the backs of elephants, my children threw themselves into yet more adventures and experiences that will shape them forever.

That, and I was also sent a photo of Martha yesterday learning how to fire a crossbow. I can only imagine how excited she will be tomorrow when she tells me all about that.

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Martha firing a crossbow in Luang Prabang. It may not be wise in the future for this picture to be on a public website.

With Tet decorations now down, and schools back tomorrow, the end of February will close out what has been a very special few months. On all fronts.

In missing people along the way, I only feel more deeply touched by what is to come, and how lucky I am.

For this, and on many other levels (including the important role that pictures play in my life) my anthem of choice flying back here at the weekend was a real blast from the past – and therefore it does come with a warning to anyone who, like me, fast approaching 40, may not need reminding that this track first came out twenty six years ago.

Enjoy – all you 90’s disciples!

And some more pics, just for the helluvit…..

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Surely one of the best bacon sandwiches a frozen commuter from Saigon has EVER tasted.

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Brothers in Arms. Twickenham. Valentine’s Day, 2015.

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The Harp. A finer establishment in Soho you’ll be hard pushed to find.

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Teddy Brackley. 3 months old and wondering what all the fuss is about, as the rest of us get to grips with Sunday morning in Cheltenham (bloody mary’s at the ready).

Year of the Horse, belatedly

My last post on this site was pre-Christmas.  I spectacularly missed the opportunity of writing about my January 1st commitment to stop smoking (achieved so far with flying colours, by the way).  I then reneged on posting suitably colourful and joyous photos of my kids enjoying the Chinese (in Vietnam, ‘Tet’) lunar New Year celebrations last week, as well as the standard picture of my Tet tree in bloom, them performing in their Tet concert, and me pontificating on what the new Year of the Horse might all be about.  On which front I am still none the wiser.

February kicked off nearly a week ago, and my “No Booze Feb” pledge was underway (watch this space, at this rate, next month I’ll convert to Buddhism, take up sunrise yoga classes and become a caffeine-free, vegan) in earnest – and yet I just didn’t get round to documenting this very sobering moment in time.

If I’d had the chance, I would have regaled you sooner with the rather tragic weekend story of how a stomach bug last Saturday ensured my quick demise over a 48 hour period, during which I didn’t eat, and spent as much time in my bathroom in two days as the average person might spend in a year.  It was not pretty.

And then, yesterday, I flew up to Hanoi on business, to find the Old Quarter looking resplendant in Tet decor, and abuzz with a heady mix of local adults drinking Tiger beers from 9am, and kids dancing in the streets (for once, not crowded with bikes and traffic).

All of this I have failed to represent so far in 2014.  Such slackness is potentially, in itself, a fatal start to any new lunar year.  Even my Tet tree flowered 6 days late.  The omens are not good. Continue reading

The Year of the Dragon

Around about this time in January the UK press tend put out articles naming the year’s official most depressing day.

Their logic cites a combination of things such as the dreary winter weather, or the inevitable financial whiplash of Christmas spending.  More often than not the offending day in question is January 23rd (which is unfortunate in our household as this is, and has always been, Lou’s birthday.)

This year in Vietnam will be a quite different affair though, as 23rd January is Chinese New Year and subsequently, due to Vietnam being one of the many countries embracing the lunar calendar, local life in Saigon over the past weeks has been 100% focused on celebrating the beginning of Tễt (the official name for the New Year here) and the 4 days of public holidays which accompany this.

As previously described in this blog, December here was wall-to-wall Christmas eye candy.  On every street you’d find precariously hung fairy lights, young Vietnamese men dressed as Santa and smoking cigarettes, shops and restaurants blaring out festive carols on a 24/7 loop. Continue reading